In the midst of one of my Father’s relapses into addiction, he told me that rehab wouldn’t help. I was shocked and confused at this statement but Daniel Bacchus Jr. informed me that rehab was pointless unless he was ready to take the first step. According to most rehab programs, the first step to getting help is admitting you have a problem. My Dad had been down this road before and understood that the healing process couldn’t begin until he first admitted there was a problem. Continue reading
I set with a wise man the other day and the following conversation took place…
I felt like I was abandoning the black inner city kids in Chester, PA. I had spent the first 5 years of my teaching career in schools that were predominately African American and I believed my biggest impact would be working with students who looked like me, talked like me, and acted like me. However, in the summer of 2011, I faced the possibility of being furloughed in Chester and was offered a job in the suburbs. I struggled with what to do and turned to my Father for advice. His words not only helped my decision but still guide me today.
I’ve now sat with my Mother through several of her chemo therapies and have walked away with one major takeaway.
We truly can only speak to our life experiences and even though I have dealt with the loss of loved ones, I have not dealt with the loss of my mother. During my time in education, I have had to offer condolences to several students and players who have been forced to handle the tragic loss of their mothers. The problem is I usually find myself at a loss for words with how they should continue forward. So when one of my best friends, Corey Davis, informed me he wanted to write about his mother, who died when we were Jr’s in high school but didn’t know where to start, I told him to write a letter to a young student who has just lost their mother. He shared his letter with me and with his permission I am sharing it with you.
Big Corey: Yo, I ain’t changed. John, “Mr. Coast Guard Academy” has changed! Continue reading
“What was the score of the Delaware game?” Continue reading